There are many aspects of a break-up that I hate, but the one that I find particularly awkward and painful is the exchange of belongings. You know, figuring out how to retrieve the clothes, toiletries and other miscellaneous items from your ex’s place. Do you go to his/her place to pick them up? Does s/he just drop the stuff off at your doorstep? Plus, there’s the fact that you may not want to let go of that t-shirt which has his/her scent all over it…
But, figuring out how to coordinate everything is a different post. This post is a short one, a poll really. You see, I was cleaning out my closet and found some items belonging to an ex – we broke up about a year ago. Luckily, these items did not stir up any wistful memories or painful emotions. But, we’re not exactly on the best of terms right now. So, I wonder, if he hasn’t asked for these items back, does that mean he’s forgotten about them or doesn’t want them anymore?
Is there a statute of limitations on getting your stuff back? Readers, what do you think?
I think what I’d do would really depend on the relationship. If we weren’t on the best of terms, I’d either chuck them or donate them (because if he hadn’t asked for them back then the things obviously aren’t that important). I think chucking vs. donating would depend on how lazy I’m feeling (whether I’d want to take the time to go donate them).
If we were on good terms and I’d be ok with seeing him briefly, I’d give them back. I wouldn’t burn them but that’s more practicality speaking there
Good points! If I were to bring them back, I would probably just leave them on his doorstep (so I wouldn’t have to see him). On the other hand, I do have access to a fireplace, so burning would be quite easy…:D
I’ve been relatively quite lazy in the past. I did manage to lump some left-behind clothing items into a goodwill donation though! I (passively) kept a left-behind extra set of sheets, and (actively) kept his CDs, because he has great music taste. Bonus.